"My biggest regret in life is for me not fighting for my marriage" -Veteran Actress Rachael Oniga Lament


 Veteran Nollywood actress, Rachel Oniga has recently adjudged to being at fault for her failure in keeping her marital union and has advised young girls to fight for their marriage in spite of any challenges it comes with.


According to the single mother of three, her marital divorce was one of the most painful things she had to do and has become one of her life’s biggest regrets as she was naive for leaving her husband at the time.


The 63-year-old actress made the revelation during an interview with Punch, where she discussed issues regarding how her marriage fell apart after her ex-husband married a second wife.




She also went ahead to disclose that even after things fell apart, she had refused to remarry because she saw herself equal to any man and did not want her children to be treated badly.


In her words;


MY FIRST BORN, OLAMIDE, WAS FOUR YEARS OLD WHEN I LEFT MY MARRIAGE.


“I HAD TO PUT THEM ALL IN BOARDING SCHOOLS. THAT IS ONE OF THE MOST PAINFUL THINGS I HAVE HAD TO DO. WHENEVER I TALK ABOUT THIS, IT ALWAYS BRINGS ME CLOSE TO TEARS. MY CHILDREN PAID THE PRICE FOR SOMETHING THEY KNEW NOTHING ABOUT.


“THE FACTOR (HER LATE HUSBAND MARRIED ANOTHER WOMAN) THAT LED TO THE END OF MY MARRIAGE MADE ME DETERMINED TO PROVE TO HIM (EX-HUSBAND) THAT I COULD STAND WITHOUT ANY MAN.


“I WAS NOT READY TO GIVE ANY OTHER MAN THE CHANCE TO BE A HINDRANCE TO MY CHILDREN AND ME. I ALSO MADE UP MY MIND THAT I WOULD DEDICATE MY LIFE TOTALLY TO MY CHILDREN. I TOUGHENED MY HEART AND BLOCKED EVERY OPPORTUNITY TO GO INTO ANY RELATIONSHIP.


“I SAW MYSELF AS EQUAL TO ANY MAN, REGARDLESS OF HOW MUCH MONEY HE MIGHT HAVE. I DIDN’T WANT ANY MAN TO TREAT MY CHILDREN BADLY. I WAS WORKING FOR MY MONEY AND I PUT MY KIDS IN GOOD SCHOOLS. SO, WHAT DO I NEED A MAN FOR?


“I FELT ALL MEN JUST WANTED WAS TO SEE THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN AND WALK AWAY. WITH WHAT MY EX-HUSBAND DID TO ME, YOU EXPECT ME TO TRUST MEN AGAIN? BEFORE WE GOT SEPARATED, HE WAS A GOOD AND IDEAL MAN.


“BUT HE MARRIED ANOTHER WOMAN AND I MOVED ON. BUT I MISS THE WHOLE UNION THING, FRIENDSHIP AND SHARING THINGS TOGETHER.


“MY ADVICE TO YOUNG LADIES IS TO KEEP AND FIGHT FOR THEIR MARRIAGES.

“PERHAPS, I WAS NAÏVE; I NEVER FOUGHT FOR WHAT WAS MINE, BUT I STILL THANK GOD. HE MADE MANY FAILED ATTEMPTS AT RECONCILIATION. HE KNEW THE TYPE OF PERSON I AM; THAT WHEN I SAY NO, IT IS NO.


“BEFORE DEATH TOOK HIM (EX-HUSBAND) AWAY, HE CALLED MANY TIMES. IT WAS MY MISTAKE. I SHOULD HAVE FOUGHT FOR MY MARRIAGE. ANY YOUNG LADY MUST TRY HER BEST AND FIGHT FOR HER MARRIAGE. MY DECISION AT THAT TIME MIGHT NOT HAVE BEEN THE BEST, BUT I STILL THANK GOD. I HAVE MY REGRETS TOO AS A HUMAN BEING.”

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